There was a time you could walk these halls and hear a pin drop. Sometimes because of the silence that tension brings, but mostly because every single sound would bounce from empty wall to empty wall echoing loudly the sound of an unfinished and undecorated house. For 10 years those echoes would bounce. We’ve asked ourselves many times why it took us so long to decorate our hours with the things that we love; why we didn’t, from the start make this a place of solace, peace and the refuge it now stands to become.

We came up with a few reasons: We partly ignored the building of this home because we had a hard time finding ourselves. What were we individually and what were we together? What home and life were we building?

Insecurity in most things that we did. But mostly we fought too hard to ‘keep up with the Jones’.  We held the really bad habit of not surrounding ourselves with like-minded, loving and encouraging people. We would have guests, new and trusted alike, come to our home and mumble sayings about our modest home.  And so for 10 years, that discontent continued to settle into these walls, and like mold, it began to poison everything we did. And so, instead of letting them or ourselves down, we ignored this home altogether.

Until now.

Taking Time to Reflect on 2017

Don’t forget that it is not the large one-time actions that create extraordinary lives, it is the small and daily items that create a life that is beyond our wildest imaginations. By simply ignoring the weight and value of the little things, we lose awareness of what those small actions can inspire within us and the next several months or even years.

By taking time to reflect on 2017, however dull and mundane it seems while in the midst of the year and day to day motions, we allow ourselves to see the small changes that have made big impacts. For most, the thought of hanging pictures on a wall or moving an old piano into the family room may seem like a normal activity, but it started to raise pride and creativity up within our souls that will have continued impact and effects on our next days and year.

Don’t forget that it is not the large one-time actions that create extraordinary lives, it is the small and daily items that create a life that is beyond our wildest imaginations. By simply ignoring the weight and value of the little things, we lose awareness of what those small actions can inspire within us and the next several months or even years.

Reflection opens our minds to what is possible

After reflection and now walking my halls I can be aware that they are now filled with joy and comfort, the occasional temper tantrum for child and adult alike (wink). But this is becoming our home. An extension of us. Our refuge. Music, creativity, and art begin to echo down these halls.

Reflection opens us up to appreciation and gratitude for what has come. When we do this,  we empty our minds of negativity and open our minds to receive the benefit and possibility of what even the small actions of 2017 can bring in 2018.

With our small changes, we are filled with the things that make us feel, uniquely us. This brings about confidence, pride, and inspiration. A portfolio of our lives that no one can take away. Big plans to do many remodeling projects ourselves. To work with our hands and let the satisfaction of hard days work set into our bones.  And with this, peace and security are created that can not be understood outside of these four walls. And it is finding its way through many other aspects of our lives.

And it is finding its way through many other aspects of our lives.

Reflection helps you realize what is important

I had long stated that 2017 was going to be a BIG year for our family. Sitting with this chilly December morning, I can attest to just how big it has become.  As we build our home and extend our family, as we bring creativity to the front and love to the focus, we start to finally have settled hearts. And though many times I thought it status and wealth accumulation that would make us whole, proud, and fight off the judges that look in on us from every turn; the reality of what makes us whole, happy and free, couldn’t be further from keeping up with the Jones.  These judges will continue to follow us and bring us down for only as long as we allow.

Reflection better positions you to stand proud even in face of judgment

Many might look at 2017 and think, how boring, how similar it was to 2016, how unproductive. Don’t forsake the things that perhaps are happening beneath the surface. The things that you may not see or notice, but are taking root and happening in very big ways behind the scenes.  Find rest as you open yourself up to become uniquely you. For 2018 builds upon 2017 and 2019 builds upon 2018 and so forth. This is something that can not be taken away from you. In your reflection, look at both the positive and negative. When we are aware of both sides, are open and honest with, there is nothing that someone else can say that can take away our pride and joy.

There may be many that look at you and us and think “how trivial”, “how small”, ” I thought they’d have more”.  But it is not material things we strive for in this life; it is experience and love we are fighting for.  And though it seems we all have many prestigious judges out there, carefully taking apart our lives because they can’t find anything else to fill theirs with,  we refuse to stand trial; Hold is in contempt of their courts, we will not allow them to place a sentence upon our hearts. We have no excuse to weave for them. For this is not their life to live.

Reflection allows us to thoughtfully and lovingly turn the page to a new chapter

As 2017 winds down, reflecting on the small and big action alike that brought us to where we now find ourselves, helps us to find closure. When we take stock of what happened, what should have happened and what shouldn’t have been allowed we are now poised to re-organize our priorities, readjusts our mindsets, find gratitude in what is happening behind the scenes and thoughtfully and lovingly turn the page to a new chapter as we welcome 2018 in just a few short weeks.