Mindfulness – Waves of Emotion

Reading through Ryan Holiday’s Daily Stoic and the first of 52 lessons, mostly lessons taught by philosophers long forgotten. The first lesson challenges me to only give thought and time to those things of which I can control. The basis of the teaching is that most emotions, sadness, anger, jealousy are symptoms of a situation in which we are angered, sad or jealous because we are not in control things –  did not happen as we desired. Seems rather silly because I have yet come across a situation and circumstance that turned out exactly how I wished or planned.

In our world of planning, dreams, and goals, there are so many unknowns, and not many things in this life are promised.  Our jobs, promotions and pay rate depend on the actions of others, our goals to play national soccer depend on the opinions of others and the ability to beat out the competition, even our very breath depends on the environment in which we travel and the decisions of those acting around us. Very little is in our control.

Mindfulness – Where I Call Home

Everything is relative. Everything.

Far too many times my family has looked at our house or standard of living and thought, “Hmm… is that it?”  It is like a page right out of Goldilocks and the Three Bears, except Goldilocks, never finds the bed that is ‘just right.’

Keeping Up With The Jones

New Years Resolutions Are In Need Of A Facelift

I was not surprised to read that while over 40% of western hemisphere dwellers create new year’s resolutions, only 8% of us achieve them.

New Year’s resolutions, after all, are most directly, tradition; just as common as the historically-and-chronologically-incorrect-but-must-display manager scene where baby Jesus is met in the manger, at Christmas time, by the three wise men. And just as most of us have long ago heard Jesus was more likely born in the spring and visited by the magi over three years later, it’s a tradition we hold for the sake of tradition.

But that’s okay. There is a deeper emotional level added to a resolution when done at a time where senses and awareness are heightened. And the impasse between old and new is one of those times. As the current year slips from view and the new year rings, a stronger connection to the resolution can be leveraged. Resolutions set in emotion can help solidify commitments for a higher possibility for attainment. Still, many of us don’t achieve those New Year’s Resolutions. New Year’s Resolutions are in need of a facelift.

Mindfulness – Proud To Be A Woman In America

I tell my kids, nephews and nieces, anyone under the age of 20 really, to follow high school with college. Maybe it is college, perhaps it is the trade school, and maybe it is an internship. My point to them is to follow up with higher training when you have the time because as I know from first-hand knowledge finishing school while working and holding down a house and kids ain’t a walk in the park.

Mindfulness – All Paths Lead Home

There was a time where only half of my family was getting together – 2 times a year at best.  A troubled childhood leads to varying paths for each of us. Many demons to shake and true selves to find.

All paths lead home

Slowly we have come closer. We have opened up and accepted the different ways we each took- the various people we each became. On Day 2 of my Mindfulness, Acceptance and Appreciation Log, I am thankful for my family and all the adventures we’ve shared.

Our 10-year-old niece has been visiting from Oregon. It’s the first time we’ve seen her since she was three months old. In fact, her presence here has pulled the family in for more adventures over the past two weeks than imagined.

While nothing is ever perfect or balanced, life has a way of pulling things together. Perhaps we avoided each other because it was painful or confusing to remember.  As the days lead us to our final sunset, we have each been able to accept the pain, the memories that are etched in the faces of our family members and begin to love each other through them.

MAA Log Day 1: All Paths Lead Home

I am mindful that everything has its time and place.
I accept the past and everyone in it – including the actions of and experiences with others and myself.
appreciate the adventures we are having and look forward to many more.

Mindfulness, Acceptance, Appreciation (MAA) Log

Mindfulness is the aware, balance acceptance of the present experience. It isn’t more complicated than that.
– Sylvia Boorstein

In my attempt prepare my mind and performance at work for yet another acquisition and transition I am overloaded with anxiety, pressure, and nausea – to the point of sickness.  The last transition was anything but easy with a steep learning curve. The mountain ahead, even more so. Yet, I have very little time to hold onto the blood-curdling fear that was coming over me because we are hosting our niece all the way from Oregon.

“The Famous Blarney Stone” 10 Ways to Empower your Communication – PART II

Learning to network starts in most uncomfortable places. I can be what I call an extroverted introvert. To those that know me, they would describe me as outgoing and personable. Still for some, not so much.  The truth is, life is short and time passes way too quickly.  There are far too many things pulling at us from all directions and I can get sucked into my introverted self when there are deadlines to meet or when a situation is just outside of my comfort zone. To give off that extroverted or even warm personality, I have to be extremely conscious of my communication style; body language, word choice, tone and genuine interest.

“The Famous Blarney Stone” 10 Ways to Empower your Communication – PART I

Learning to network starts in the most uncomfortable of places. I am an extroverted introvert, which really just means that until you get to know me and I open up to you, you’ll most likely think I’m a stuck-up prude. But if you know me, I can be outgoing and personable; if the timing is right. Still for some, not so much.

The truth is, life is short and time passes way too quickly. And there are far too many things pulling at us from all directions. I get sucked into my introverted self when there are deadlines to meet or when a situation is just within the outer limits of my comfort zone. To give off that extroverted or even warm personality, I have to be extremely conscious of my communication style; body language, word choice, tone and genuine interest.

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“ABR”

There are moments that define your career. The first was the decision I made to fill in the gaps at work and learn something that was so out of my comfort zone it propelled me onto the fast and profitable track (read more about it here.)  There have been several more defining moments since. One that continues to stand out was at a time when I felt like all my chips were down. My CFO, Controller and most relied upon co-workers had left our company shortly after acquisition. I had settled in nicely working with the CEO. I had even become comfortable with it.  Shortly thereafter, he left as well.

Mindfulness – Imparting Our Imperfections To Them

Today I’m reminded that life is a gift. I wrote a post yesterday about dealing with fear. Tricks or tips I’m using to open conversations between my daughter and her thoughts. As time passes I’m reminded that we’re in a season, a short season where we as parents get just a little moment to impart what we think we know to our kids. At dinner tonight I was wrapped up in hearing my oldest talk about her dreams at the dinner table. Adiah and Gabe love questions and answer time at dinner, it’s inspiring.

It’s one of the few moments of the day we can truly sit down and listen to what they have to say. A lot of it’s very familiar because of its origin, but if you listen closely you’ll be able to hear new versions that spin-off from what they’ve learned or heard from mom and dad. The real magic happens after they realize they have free range of thought after getting passed “our” baseline. Soon they’ll be able to create their own baseline from exercises they have. The gift I’m referring to in the first sentence is complex in nature but flows once you think about it.