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Managing People & Meetings From Hell

Frustration abounds in managing people. Those who don’t bend to our will can infuriate even the best bosses. Hello to my week.

But we aren’t called to be the best boss that we can be, we are called to bring out the best of those that we lead.

Mindfulness – Negative Emotions & Dead People’s Goals

I have not been without pregnancy emotional breakdowns. At 28 weeks and counting, I sat there on the edge of the bed in absolute tears, my husband staring in disbelief and failed attempts to not make the situation worse.  The only thing that calmed me down long enough to function was my episode being followed by a tear streaked pre-teen walking through our door with a very similar problem: Negative emotions.

The problem with negative emotions is I can’t tell if it’s the actual emotion that makes me feel bad or the guilt of having them.

Such strong pressure we put on our selves and society, perhaps further encouraged by social media, to be ever so perfect, happy and content. When I feel anything less, I feel guilty.  My husband tells me I’m going to create cancer in my body with all those negative emotions.

And I agree, to a point.

Work Place Drama, Reviews & Perception Management

While we must be cautious to separate our haters from those offering constructive criticism, when we become leaders and managers, we become investors in the company. There are times when we as leaders must take an active role in perception management.

Our realities are simply our perception of what happened, often times burdened with baggage, time, misunderstanding, limited resources and limited knowledge. While our ability to work effectively within those realities is our personal responsibility, good leaders help to cultivate an environment that allows our perceptions to more closely resemble reality. For effectiveness, innovation, and harmony, a good manager cannot say,

“It’s not my job to manage what other’s think of me [or of the company].”

While we must be cautious to separate our haters from those offering constructive criticism, when we become leaders and managers, we become investors in the company –  which, to borrow from Marcus Lemonis, is made up of nothing other than product, process, and PEOPLE.

I recently had to counsel a leader in which hard feedback was shared. The team this leader was instructing felt that the environment was harsh, closed, one-sided. Teamwork, trust, and innovation were in effect killed and drained from the team. When sharing this information with the leader, and in reviewing actionable items to get the team back on track, the leader’s response:

“it’s not my job to manage how they feel.”

WRONG.

How I Made $6,000 In One Day

Turning 35 hit me like a ton of bricks – much harder than turning 30. And while I admit that I am not pushing up daisies, I’m am however someone the check out cashiers now call “mam”, even when I am without children in toe.

Needless to say, I was only partially up for celebrating my birthday. Becuase after all, while I don’t fully expect the world to stop turning when it’s my birthday, I do secretly hope that one day it ought.

Turns out, this year’s celebration was much overdue and so very welcome. Instead of going out and spending money on gifts, dinners and the like, I spent the part of the day that I had free with renegotiating my personal vendor relationships. Yes. Seriously. And it was FANTASTIC!

Burdens Cannot Have A Place In Our Progression

Learning should be viewed as an opportunity, not a burden.

Feel tired? Overwhelmed? Stretched at work again? Feel like you are the one that gets all the problem child projects, while everyone else gets seemingly easy tasks in which to keep up their “golden child” persona?

You are not alone.

BOA Eliminates FREE Checking Accounts – WHY This Matters!

When the recession hit in 2009, we went from a double income family to a single income family. Childcare was so expensive at that time in our careers, an entire annual paycheck would go towards childcare alone. This was not the motivation neither my husband nor I had for our careers. Therefore, as many of us do, we sacrificed the double paycheck for what we deemed appropriate for our family – regardless of which gender took on which role.

I recall very trying times as we worked to bring the single income paycheck up to an adequate living standard. We lived paycheck to paycheck – barely. In retrospect, the recent changes that Bank of America announced last week would have been a huge stumbling block for us on an already long, winding and bumpy road.

Mom Charges 5 Year Old Room and Board

At first, the thought was silly. Really? I thought, really? But when you get further into the story, Mom gives her 5-year-old $7 dollars a week for chores and charges $1 per week per each expense: Rent, Food, Transportation, Clothing, and, Utilities. She then deposits the remaining $2 per week into a savings account for the child.

On my morning commute, I heard a story on Atlanta local radio that went something like this:

“Mom Charges 5-year-Old Room and Board”

At first, the thought was silly. Really? I thought, really? But when you get further into the story, Mom gives her 5-year-old $7 dollars a week for chores and charges $1 per week per each expense: Rent, Food, Transportation, Clothing, and, Utilities. She then deposits the remaining $2 per week into a savings account for the child. When the child is 18, the mother figures they will have $3,000  with which to start their adult life.

Naturally, there was some debate on the show concerning this, but after the first cry of unfair treatment or dare they, abuse, I jumped out of the car shaking my head and decided that I would re-focus on the day ahead.

Intriguing.

4 “Big Girl” Career Moves I Hated Making

On the back of many 2017 gender pay gap reports, I feel it appropriate we now address each other, as grown women. Until the gaps are easier to navigate and bridge, we will have to pull up our big girl britches and get some serious work done – make some big girl career moves.

I’m not afraid of a little extra work – for the sake of women progression and movement – are you?

In fact, I recall sitting down with a fem. friend of mine when I was 24 and discussing what I would like my career path to look like.  “Well, that’s great.” She said. “I’m sure you’ve discussed this with your boss?”

The truth is I hadn’t and I didn’t want to. It seemed desperate, boisterous, ungrateful. Success will just come to you if you keep working hard enough, right?

Wrong.

Especially as a woman.

Grant Thornton Losing BIG – Gender Pay Gap Reports

In a 2017 report, Grant Thornton uncovers a gender pay gap that proves larger than those of the Big Four accounting firms. However, peeling back the pay grades and demographics, the gender pay gap is attributed not to an unequal pay structure, as most companies promise they pay women workers the similarly for the same work, but to a male-dominated senior management team.

In many companies, such as with Grant Thornton, the workforce is split almost equally by gender – 51% men and 49% women, with women dominating lower levels of the workforce and men higher levels of the workforce – 64.5% at senior manager, 64.5% at associate director, and 75.9% at director. Yet, carries a mean gender pay gap of 26.56% – KPMG at 22.3%, EY at 19.7%, Deloitte at 18.2%, and PwC at 13.7%.